deja vu

Just had a long (1 hr 8 mins) phone conversation with the person formerly known as lie woman. We laughed, talked about illnesses (she had that weird stomach bug that I had) and kids. The overheard phrase was not mentioned.

No-one is more surprised than I am, that it was such an ok conv. We did get on well once though.

Is it possible to move on from the kind of damage between us? I guess we just avoid certain topics.

Chances? I've been the recipient of a few chances myself in the past. Mibbe this is the kind of healing I need reassurance of. If I turn up covered in bruises though, gimme a nudge will ya?

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- rowtheboat
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- Thursday, 04. Oct, 2007 @ 11:24:20 pm
Hate to sound like a mistrusting cynic but... just be careful.

xx
- - subville
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  - Thursday, 04. Oct, 2007 @ 11:28:25 pm
  Yes, that was running through my head for the 2nd half of conv.
  
  It's been a really odd day.
  
  xx
  - - rowtheboat
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    - Thursday, 04. Oct, 2007 @ 11:29:40 pm
    It's good to feel as though you're moving on, though. Good for you.
    
    x
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- Mrs_F
- Thursday, 04. Oct, 2007 @ 11:30:51 pm
You can forgive and move on, but just to be safe never forget. I never do. I know that sounds harsh but it is an important survival skill.

A friend of mine always had the following motto.

"Shaft me once shame on you, Shaft me twice shame on me."

X
- - subville
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  - Thursday, 04. Oct, 2007 @ 11:37:13 pm
  I really do need to toughen up, I'm an emotional blancmange. I wish I was a jelly, then it would all bounce off
  
  (sorry got carried away with the dessert symbolism)
  
  xxx
  - - Old-Nick ^Pro
    - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:55:13 am
    I see myself as more of an "99" emotion wise.
    
    Guess where I put the flake?
    - - subville
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      - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:19:28 pm
      *loon*
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
- Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 12:08:33 am
If someone asks you forgiveness for what they have done, you must forgive them (the teachings of the Catholic church). If they do not ask, then you do not.

Having said that, I do believe that it is better to press forward than dwell in the past. Doesn't mean you will be the best of friends but it does mean you no longer carry the angst inside.

xxx
- - subville
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  - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 12:18:21 am
  I have to keep doing that, over and over. Little things keep sparking it off again, and I panic and worry ... then I get to //this// stage again eventually. Was surprised to get a phone call so quickly after the stuff yesterday though.
  
  xxx
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- Old-Nick ^Pro
- Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:57:12 am
I agree with what Mrs F said.

If you can forgive but not forget but still move on to a better place it will be good for you.

That word just in from our expert on having a stable and logical emotional life.

ahem.
- - subville
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  - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:22:58 pm
  I don't think I'll ever forget. Makes female friendships tricky though. x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 12:58:29 pm
Hmmmmm is she the one that kept walking past your window shouting stuff?
- - subville
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  - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:20:22 pm
  Ohhhh no no no no no
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- PurpleDragon
- Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 01:42:24 pm
Hmm. Tread carefully, sweetie. She always reads like she has an ulterior motive to me. Let her earn her place.
- - subville
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  - Friday, 05. Oct, 2007 @ 08:20:59 pm
  My thoughts exactly. Thanks, Carol *hug*
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